There’s nothing wrong with stopping seeking out the new and idealising the old, by the way. I mean, as long as you don’t do it for everything you care about, that’s unhealthy. But it’s a big life and you have less and less of it, triage is going to happen. Just don’t be a dick to your ex-interests, or more to the point, to the people who share them.
I wrote and then deleted a pretty giant essay elaborating my complicated feelings about this good point - how I feel like there’s value sometimes in not just disengaging with one’s ex-interests, but really actively renouncing them, nay denouncing them, going over to the other side, joining up with the enemy, etc
but then I would say that, I align zealot
but on the “more to the point” side of the comma, yes 100% co-sign